Everyone will grow up eventually, I know I have! Being a 20-something years old lady, I have come to realize that all my childhood thoughts about adulthood were absolutely false haha. As a kid, I was the child that couldn’t wait to grow up, I wanted to grow up so bad and looking back now. I really don’t know why I was so impatient🙄. I guess I thought being an adult is basically strawberries and roses everyday with money falling from the sky. But,nope! I sure was clueless.
So after passing through my growing years, I have come to the realization that the term “adulthood” is just a fancy term for unending responsibilities (no jokes). Here are some facts I wished I knew about before growing up.
BILLS! BILLS! BILLS! I have to pay bills! Rent, Utility bills even being Alive bills! Oh lord, if someone had told me this fact when I was younger. I would have tried to remain little forever (though impossible), where I got to live free, eat free, move free basically everything in life was free then but no more.
LOOKING OUT FOR MYSELF, I wish I knew that there will be a time when the only person that got me is me! Family or friends can’t be present physically all the time (definitely), knowingly or unknowingly! So I have to take care of myself in all situations.
PLANS ARE IMPORTANT, I wish I knew that making plans are very important, whether I want to go grocery shopping or visit a friend, I need to always make plans ahead of time and insert them into my schedule to make sure I have time for each activity I had planned. And also on to bigger plans, I wish I knew Setting specific plans for my future is the most important and also plans do change, so I must always have a backup plan.
GETTING A JOB. Yup! I can’t live free forever. got to find a means of livelihood to support myself. improve my family and appreciate my hardworking parents. But, nowadays! getting a job is not the easiest commodity to come by especially in countries in Africa. So for me to be working a decent job I have to diligently find one first (home and abroad).
NOTHING IS FREE OR CHEAP, Only oxygen is free and sometimes that also comes with a price as its already contaminated with air pollutants. Nowadays. even if someone offers me an item for free, I get very suspicious and tend to ask “what do you want from me?” Deep this! Because nobody actually offers anything for absolutely free, they always want something done or given in return. And also I wish I knew nothing is cheap in the sense that, me as a human I’m never satisfied with one item, like in a scenario where I go shopping and I see an outfit store on sale, I tend to go in and instead of buying a few, I rather buy a lot and I rack up a not so cheap bill. Why did this happen? Simple answer! I was blinded by the “Sale” sign that promised to be cheap but really isn’t.
I CAN’T PLEASE EVERYONE, I wish I knew that I don’t need to try my hardest to make people like me or hate me! Because at the end of the day, there will be those that sincerely love me and those that really don’t give a shit about me. And it’s absolutely okay because in life I can’t please everyone and life is too short to make everyone happy except myself.
FEW FRIENDS, BETTER LIFE, I wish I knew that having lots of friends doesn’t mean you have a fulfilled life, it’s rather a recipe for trouble. I have always kept a close circle though and I’m glad I haven’t expanded my circle. I have always been a private person but when I was younger I did wondered and desperately wanted to have more friends to supposedly have more fun with but I wish I knew I would have a more peaceful and calm life with less friends.
TOUGH TIMES, I wish I knew that I would encounter quite a lot of tough times in my adult life and I wish I had told myself that tough times never last only tough people do. So I’m telling my adult self now. Be one heck of a tough lady!
I sure do appreciate my adult life, I probably wouldn’t have believed any of these then if I was told haha (I would have been like ” whatttt, you’re crazy!😂) but I’m presently still basking in my twenties and I’m glad I know these things now because as you know what they say “Experience is the Best teacher”.
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