Relationships are pleasant until it comes to an end! It doesn’t necessarily have to end or end at all but sometimes letting go is the best decision ever. I remember when I left my ex-boyfriend years ago, I felt very relieved. When I was with him I thought I wasn’t going to meet anyone that will love me like “he loved me” ( which by the way is bullshit), I was too scared and very low self esteemed to leave but when I finally did, it was freedom! I went wild for almost a year living my best single life till I met my current man and decided to put a break on being single, well because He was and still is worth it😇
Though today is not about me or my love life, I just needed to share that before I begin giving the reasons why I think going back to your Ex lover is a big fat NO!
1. THE REASON YOU LEFT:
I’m pretty sure you didn’t leave them because you just wanted to explore the world and hurt the human you love very dearly, it must have been deeper than that. You tried to make it work, it just didn’t. Move on. Always refer back to the reason you decided to take a walk from the relationship, never accept pleads from them claiming to change, because a leopard never changes its spotty skin (the leopard being your ex and its skin being their behavior, you get it?😅).
2. LOST TRUST AND LOVE:
You will not be able to trust and love them like you did during the good times, in a case of cheating for example you might forgive but you really won’t forget or trust them ever again. Even if you tell yourself you can work through it, when a little fight occur, you will definitely refer back to it and question yourself why you decided to give them a second chance. And being in love is a mental emotion, once you lose it in your heart, no matter how you convince yourself you love them, you really don’t anymore in your heart.
3. YOU WILL BE HURT AGAIN:
The assurance that they won’t abuse, cheat, hit, molest or whatever horrible thing done to you won’t be done again is slim. It will be done again! Facts are facts. Save yourself the double heartache and spend your time instead to heal.
4. YOU NEED TIME TO HEAL:
Instead of rushing back into a toxic relationship with your ex, take some time out for yourself, show yourself love and remind yourself of your worth and what you truly deserve. Go wild, have fun! It’s all part of the healing😇
5. THERE IS SOMEONE BETTER OUT THERE FOR YOU:
Why stay with someone it didn’t work with when you can be with someone so much more better? The only way this can happen is if you allow your past be your past by letting go of your ex forever. Don’t settle for no one, there are so many people in the world and so many potential lovers for you. Test the waters, there are so many fishes in the sea.
But at the end of the day, leaving or getting back together with your ex is entirely your decision but before you make that move, ask yourself : he/she is truly worth it?
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